Just Because 3.30

One day my boss said about personal relationship and professional relationship. He said in work office, these 2 parts always come up together, so we must maintain good personal and professional relationship with co-workers.

This talk came up in one of managers meeting after some issue about miscommunication happened and it seemed affected the quality of work.

Particular in my office, that don’t have (yet) hundreds employees, so we’ll see and interact intensively with everybody everyday. That’s why personal & professional are need to make a great team work.

What’s definition of being professional? Do we need to get personal too?

In my perception personal relationship means you get into personality of the person. They ‘click’ you in a way so you’re enjoying their friendship or company and you must have these friends in your office.  And about being professional, this article explain well enough. It said there are 10 points, but what I love is that, in that article mention about practice good manners and proper etiquette and also mention about have high ethical and moral standards. 

There are my points. Being professional doesn’t mean you don’t need good manners or proper etiquette as long as your job are well executed and on deadline. But being professional also doesn’t mean what I care is you’ve done your jobs and I don’t care about you just got dumped and need some emotional support because it’s your bff’s job. No, it’s not like all that…

But it’s not easy to do both – personal and also professional. When we have good personal relationship with our coworker, they become friends (not just as coworkers) and maybe BFF or brothers in social life. The problem is when they do wrong (obviously wrong) and we must react based on objective rule. Can we be objective? Yes we can, but they’re friends rights. We love our friends and don’t want bad thing happen to them. Will or Won’t you be objective? or you’re just silent?

The other side also the same. (Because you’re my friend) make the work finish sooner, okay. (though you know your friend to do list is like Santa’s naughty boys’ list–too long to ask for favor). But the friendship sometime go overboard and forget the professional. The reason because you are my friend become ‘price’ to have special treatment. Do you have experience too?

I dunno why this is become hot topic lately, because I admitted to do what my boss asked is quite hard. Maintain a good personal & professional relationship turn out is not just being good at work and let’s lunch or hangout after office together. But how you can also put aside your personal feeling (or even your pride) while in office and be friendly in casual with your co-worker and also good communication in working for greater propose ( I mean propose is target billing. Oh i shouldn’t write that). Yeah…Just because it is 3.30 AM and I can’t sleep…



I or We?

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After you read this, maybe you can call me a whinner, or complainer or or a a quiter.. I can’t forbid your thought right, but at least I got some release.

So, I remember back then when I am looking a vacancy in one company to others. The requirements always mention: Able work in team or individually person? off course this is depent the position you are applying.

After I work one to another company in my career life, I learnt how to work as team and how to work individually. Working  individually actually fun if you are one man show.  You can just finish all your work without waiting result from others job. Your responsibility is your jobdesc and that’s it. Okay, your trouble is also yours only.

Meanwhile Team Work is working as team. Many people connected with your job. When you are in team, whatever you do, it will relate with others. If you are delaying jobs, so others also will be delayed. But, you can also have fun, because when the problems came, you don’t have to face it alone. (got my point? 🙂 )

So, which one do you choose?

Team work, which is my topic now, is more complex that just working in team. What is Team work as term, I don’t know for sure, Wikipedia maybe explain it better that I am.

But what in my thought, working as team, is not just connected with others, but you have to press your ego, your idealism, and more broaden your knowledge.

You also learn to be more tolerate, and support (that’s for sure) each others.  The poin is not just finisih your desc job, but look ahead to the success of the project.

Okay, I mentioned support before. But how far support is that be?

Hmm.. support is,well..support. Is that mean replacing? Err.. that’s 2 different words though kinda similar meaning. Support and Replace. Well, let’s see.. (Go to google.com ^_*)

Definition Support & Definition Replace

But, 2 weeks before I learnt another lesson. First, I am not super woman, I am not that tough, and I hate when people don’t responsible. Yes, some people just disappointed me at works. One just wuusshhh in sudden, and only left me some of notes to do which is not ‘supporting’ work. Others, practically no sense of concern what I am gonna through. Practically I am doing his job which should be finished  a few weeks ago. Another one just don’t give me any back up and support and busy about her personal plan.

Disappointed and angry. The first time I feel I have no one to support me. I said my objection about this to my best friends in office. And yeah..they tried to help me, and I really appreciated. I know I should not asked them because they are not in in charge in this project. But they want to help me.

I feel mad, and yes disappointed. And I said that to every team member in this project. I need they know what I was facing last couple weeks. And yes, they know and they are felt sorry. They should be.  One question that I  asked to them, how they just walked away when I need them?

So now that passed. I feel relief. But from that moment I know who’s the person I can count on and not, and who’s the person that only care about their self. If that happened to you, what will you do?